tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post4036834721195288884..comments2024-03-12T09:47:58.376+02:00Comments on ChampagneHeathen: To Change?Champagne Heathenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09540128789208726965noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-80522127155724809452007-03-29T09:00:00.000+02:002007-03-29T09:00:00.000+02:00It's possible the only change you need is a good s...It's possible the only change you need is a good shag or two or three.<BR/>Drinking like a fish without a bicycle should allow that fairly regularly? (Hopefully on your own terms). <BR/>I think you've stumbled onto something wondering whether drinking affects your relationship abilities.<BR/> <BR/>Any which way or road you choose is the right one at that specific point in time. Whatever...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-59120920103368386212007-03-29T08:42:00.000+02:002007-03-29T08:42:00.000+02:00Hey Champs. You DO drink too much, take it from so...Hey Champs. You DO drink too much, take it from someone else who used to. And so does nearly everyone you know. We all do out here inthe African sun.<BR/>And if you want to figure out the real you, try staying sober for more than a month and you'll find who you are, and you'll also find that being drunk isn't part of who you are, its just what you do, and learn the interesting distinction!<BR/>THEN you can party and drink and be whoever you want. But trying to assert that "this is who i am" from a drunk perspective is like arguing that the world is flat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-51377857824854882482007-03-28T16:36:00.000+02:002007-03-28T16:36:00.000+02:00Yeah, but Jam, my friends & family have battled wi...Yeah, but Jam, my friends & family have battled with me for years, till finally my friends learnt when & how to dictate to me & I simply abide without thought, while my bros just had to beat it into me (I joke), but with family it was not easy finding a middle ground.Champagne Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540128789208726965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-65492874944329648332007-03-28T16:02:00.000+02:002007-03-28T16:02:00.000+02:00Champs, that's very human behaviour. As you mentio...Champs, that's very human behaviour. As you mentioned, there is often compromise with friends, family...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-49124222657936525092007-03-28T15:37:00.000+02:002007-03-28T15:37:00.000+02:00Jam - argh, that sounds like very un-single behavi...Jam - argh, that sounds like very un-single behaviour. Argh. <BR/><BR/>Peas - yes, a drink sometime would be good. But maybe just ONE...bottle of wine. You're gorgeous the way you are too, so we won't change together then!<BR/><BR/>Phlippy - Thanks babe!! And smooches back to you.<BR/><BR/>Spoon - that's what i have to keep checking - if I am not fooling myself, and am truly happy with how things are. But my mates all have great mighty fires blazing next to mine - I don't want to outshine, I want to boost them up too. <BR/><BR/>Garth - welcome back! I haven't seen you here in ages. You guys will definitely be the first to know! But I think it might be more gradual than that, and you might have to point it out to me. <BR/><BR/>Cuteness - I don't even think I need to calm down. I know this is me & I am happy this way. I think for a while, back in the day, I used to feel the guilt of others' disapproval & keep thinking that I should calm down, but never managed to. Something one day made me stop giving a fck about faceless society's disapproval of me.<BR/><BR/>But I do have to worry sometimes, if I am the one living in disillusion. Which is when such posts are prompted. <BR/><BR/>Great to hear that I have company!Champagne Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540128789208726965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-68102394338478429122007-03-28T15:21:00.000+02:002007-03-28T15:21:00.000+02:00this is what i have been thinking of late, and aft...this is what i have been thinking of late, and after most nights out i constantly think i need to calm down, only to repeat same disorderly behaviour. begin to wonder if ones view of themself can be so wrong, so far from reality....<BR/>and if u drinking at the bar at 40, look to your right, i might be right there with you... however i dont see u heading in that direction.Her Infinite Cutenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07853394624829536948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-17747225325271105802007-03-28T15:20:00.000+02:002007-03-28T15:20:00.000+02:00I am sure that a day will come when you will say.....I am sure that a day will come when you will say....Hooold it, I don't enjoy this anymore!<BR/>When it comes you will be able to move on and take pleasure in a new style of behaviour. Let us know when/if it happens!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-53766168492621171902007-03-28T14:35:00.000+02:002007-03-28T14:35:00.000+02:00Only you know that or perhaps need to make sure th...Only you know that or perhaps need to make sure that you act that way for those reasons and that you're not fooling yourself. I'm of the opinion you should change for no-one but yourself, so as long as you're true to yourself that is enough and should be enough for anyone in your life. I think you should continue to blaze a trail as long as it makes you genuinely happy. I have found that many people will try to quell that fire because their fire can't blaze strongly enough alongside and they feel inferior.Itsnopicknickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04531244357207614387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-2295811601692836672007-03-28T14:12:00.000+02:002007-03-28T14:12:00.000+02:00Good post angel, insightful and what a lot of peop...Good post angel, insightful and what a lot of people think but do not say. Good luck wth life you crazy monkey, you're still fantastic value and special beyond words.<BR/><BR/>MWAHPhlippyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075170008177293978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-75196373884576031962007-03-28T12:55:00.000+02:002007-03-28T12:55:00.000+02:00It's so funny Champs - I think you mirroered my ex...It's so funny Champs - I think you mirroered my exact thougths today sunshine.<BR/><BR/>Chat over a drink sometime? ;)Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-4790906990953009232007-03-28T12:12:00.000+02:002007-03-28T12:12:00.000+02:00Compromise means you both move from your dogged, d...Compromise means you both move from your dogged, determined position to a point in the middle that makes sense for both of you. It's not a case of one person or another budging, you both need to work...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-70479151979038315012007-03-28T12:05:00.000+02:002007-03-28T12:05:00.000+02:00Jam - excellent point!Kyks - But exactly!! When am...Jam - excellent point!<BR/><BR/>Kyks - But exactly!! When am I being doggedly stubborn and when am I being true to myself? My friends comments here have assured me that I am not about to end up alone anytime soon for my chaotic element, so for now I am cool. <BR/><BR/>And don't even get me started on the concept of "compromise" - <BR/>'You'd calm down for me & the stress it causes me. If you love me you don't want me to be stressed' versus 'If you love me, you will accept me for me, good and bad sides all in one'. <BR/><BR/>Compromise from both sides has to take place for a relationship to be healthy, whether between lovers, parent & child, friends, sibling (all cases of when I have been faced with this dilemma). But who compromises for the other??Champagne Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540128789208726965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-85017924210351509022007-03-28T11:55:00.000+02:002007-03-28T11:55:00.000+02:00Regarding the above - I don't know the answers. T...Regarding the above - I don't know the answers. These are just questions I've had to ask myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-20457334679174380422007-03-28T11:53:00.000+02:002007-03-28T11:53:00.000+02:00"...This is the way I am & I ain’t changing for yo...<I>"...This is the way I am & I ain’t changing for you..."</I> sounds a bit like "No compromises ever" to me. Does compromise necessarily translate into weakness? Is a dogged determination not to change a case of being true to yourself, or is it a sign of inflexibility? Is it reasonable to expect a healthy relationship to emerge from an unbalanced foundation?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-91935399949264883612007-03-28T11:50:00.001+02:002007-03-28T11:50:00.001+02:00You can never deny who you are. And that means lov...You can never deny who you are. And that means loving all parts of yourself, whether those things are good or bad. You cannot change who you are, but you can always modify your behaviour if YOU want to. I always think there's no reason to change unless you feel for some reason that you need to! Chaos is probably part of you - the part of you that makes you act crazy but it's also the part of you that allows you to be creative, to produce gorgeous blog posts, to live life with passion. All sides of ourselves have good and bad in them. It just depends on how we choose to respond to those sides of ourselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-4093120261593928252007-03-28T11:50:00.000+02:002007-03-28T11:50:00.000+02:00You can never deny who you are. And that means lov...You can never deny who you are. And that means loving all parts of yourself, whether those things are good or bad. You cannot change who you are, but you can always modify your behaviour if YOU want to. I always think there's no reason to change unless you feel for some reason that you need to! Chaos is probably part of you - the part of you that makes you act crazy but it's also the part of you that allows you to be creative, to produce gorgeous blog posts, to live life with passion. All sides of ourselves have good and bad in them. It just depends on how we choose to respond to those sides of ourselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-70686244316699284522007-03-28T11:41:00.000+02:002007-03-28T11:41:00.000+02:00HPF - thank you. I really like your comment. It ri...HPF - thank you. I really like your comment. It rings so true & is some excellent advice. So these thoughts are like emotional growing pains?! I have to say, I like the idea of forgiveness & gentleness being on the horizon. And I'll think I'll keep the answer to your final Q to myself for now. <BR/><BR/>Your Truly - Ha ha ha ha ha!! Cheers to THAT!<BR/><BR/>Jamaloni - I have heard you say these things before, but I think NOW I get it! Well kinda. Obviously I'll only really understand, when I reach that place. <BR/><BR/>I think I also need to apologise about my behaviour to those around me. But rather I need to accept that the darling people who befriend & love me, accept this chaos in me, for good and/or bad. Does this all mean it is meant to be ME who needs to accept my chaos!?! Hmmm....<BR/><BR/>Chews - Too true, and recently most things that have happened have been great!<BR/><BR/>Chikita Nickita - Thanks babe!! Loved all you had to say. And yes, you have seen me go through one of the hardest stages of really having to battle with staying true to crazy me while those around me were completely opposite & thought I was a loon. Good times. <BR/><BR/>Darling Fidel - Yeah!! Wonderful to be reminded at times! And Love ya muchos!<BR/><BR/>Rev - I don't know what I want. I don't think. That's why I have to keep up this reflecting, and then forward searching, then reaffirming. I'm just trying to figire my basics out.Champagne Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09540128789208726965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-12259783136688172442007-03-28T11:09:00.000+02:002007-03-28T11:09:00.000+02:00But what do you want?Until you've worked that out ...But what do you want?<BR/>Until you've worked that out it doesn't matter what others think or what they try and do.Revolving Credithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15574797355925391736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-47175082954422407122007-03-28T10:58:00.000+02:002007-03-28T10:58:00.000+02:00Very deep for a non hungover state Champs! I must ...Very deep for a non hungover state Champs! I must admit that I do sleep a lot better since you have calmed down a bit. I'm one of those people that love you just the way you are and especially love your free spiritedness and how you are up for anything, any time. I agree with hpf that it is about you and think the "calming down" you have experienced until now has had a lot to do with you respecting and loving yourself a bit more. And trust me there is a lot to love. So keep being you friend and people like me will be there next to you every step of the chaotic way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-25292046204348942272007-03-28T10:52:00.000+02:002007-03-28T10:52:00.000+02:00You are beautiful as you are.The main attraction i...You are beautiful as you are.The main attraction is that you do not pretend to be someone you're not...and that's what I love about you.You are R.E.A.L.Real women are intelligent,loud, brave, outspoken, astute and funny, as well as kind, loving and supportive.You are all of that...and more...<BR/><BR/>We are all different,and people need to realize that.Enough of that idiotic 'boxing in',no doubt an easy thing to do...I always say everyone wears a different shade of 'cultural sunglasses'...accept it...or live in denial your whole life!<BR/><BR/>Be Real!Be you!Love you as you are.You're crazy,and do the maddest things sometimes,but at least you're YOU!!!Stay beautiful Champs!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-74380887942334546892007-03-28T10:51:00.000+02:002007-03-28T10:51:00.000+02:00Fly free Champers! If you were boring none of anyt...Fly free Champers! If you were boring none of anything thats happened would have happened ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-63401231069750845602007-03-28T10:07:00.000+02:002007-03-28T10:07:00.000+02:00promise me that when the skin on your upper arm st...promise me that when the skin on your upper arm starts resembling a limp and wrinkled chicken breast you'll start drinking in the comfort of your living room, then there's absolutely no chance of being the drunkard at the bar :) cheers girlfriend!The xGWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03603348383877866527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28321828.post-12247957876840431172007-03-28T09:52:00.000+02:002007-03-28T09:52:00.000+02:00What's your answer to yourself, Champs?I find, as ...What's your answer to yourself, Champs?<BR/>I find, as one get's older, there's a happy medium. It's not about changing for another. But rather, growing for oneself. After all, one cannot stagnate in the behaviour or attitudes of ones youth <I>for oneself</I>, not for others. It's got nothing to do with relationships with others. It's got everything to do with ones relationship with oneself. And I find with the kind of women we are, the fiercely self (and world) examining kind, moderation comes with age, as does a sense of forgiveness of the worlds sins, and gentleness.<BR/>Not to say one becomes resigned to things not changing. Fuck. this is turning into a long discussion with myself. <BR/>All this to say, don't worry. It's not about men. It's not about booze. It's about you and what you're questioning. What are you uncomfortable with, and why?<BR/>XXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com